Thoughts & Quotes

life is like a series of photographs you develop from the negatives.
When you need to fly from your home, it's not a home. Home should be where the birds feelings are free not caged.
nobody likes the rain but if you want the rainbow you gotta put up with the rain.
♫ And the stars are always there but we miss them in the dirt and in the clouds we miss them in the storms. ♫
To the believer anything is possible, to the sceptic everything is impossible.
"the reason angels can fly is becuase they take themselves lightly"
Stay strong- Keep smiling =] and NEVER give up- there is always hope <3
'It is not the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves' (William Shakespeare)
Stick to the fight when your hardest hit, its when things seem worse that you must not quit
it's about learning to dance in the rain
sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same
we never notice the beauty around us because we are too busy trying to create it.
People say that it is holding on that makes you stronger, but sometimes it is letting go and putting yourself first.
No-one can do a better job of being you, than YOU.
Be strong now because things will get better; it may be stormy now but it can't rain forever.
This too shall pass
We have to learn to dance in the rain
Even on the darkest days sometimes we glimpse sunlight
Sometimes we need to tell our story 100 times
Faith is the bird that feels the light and sings when the dawn is still dark

How do I feel?

When someone becomes addicted to drugs and alcohol in a family, the family can often end up spending a lot of time and energy thinking about the person and their drug and alcohol use. When this happens, it may impact on the family in a bad way. Family members may be hurt when the addict refuses their help and care. This will often cause the family to try even harder to get the addict to recognise that they have a problem. But the harder they try, the worse it often gets.
Communication at this stage often becomes impossible and everybody will start to feel alone with their own ‘secret pain’. The effects of an addict’s behaviour on those around him or her are often to cause embarrassment and upset. You might start to lose friends, or forget about your interests and hobbies as well as relationships becoming strained or difficult. Addiction often soaks up the majority of your emotional energy. Family members may feel resentful and low a lot of the time. You may also feel helpless, angry, confused, guilty, desperate and frustrated and may have difficulty trusting others around you.
It might be helpful to make some time in your day or week to think about something else other than the person’s drug and/or alcohol problem.
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