Children of Addicted Parents and People

Hi my mums an alcoholic and its hard to live with she has some weeks where she wakes up in the morning goes to the shop and gets her drink and then stays in her bedroom all day and gets drunk and she will be nasty towards me and my sisters and dad. you never know what shes going to be like and i havent spoken to her proably for about a year and half because i cant cope with her at the moment she doesnt realise shes an alcoholic and this is the problem. Shes always has to have a drink and it is tearing our family apart and it will never be the same again. My little sister is only 6 and doesnt know my mum any different than the way she is. The police have been called to my house before because she screams and the neighbours think something bads happening. Sometimes i dont see her for days as she stays in her room i dont feel like i have a mum cause shes never there for me. I do talk to people but no one knows the answer what to say to me but i just need someone to listen to me and so i came on here just to talk to people that have the same experiences and kind of know what happens.

trying to cope with my sister is so hard, had a fone call 5am, to say she had been beaten again by her boyfriend, i saw her covered in bruises, she was drunk and saying she was going to leave him, but i found out 2day she has gone back to him yet again, shes lost so much weight and she was talking of killing herself again, just feel stressed with it all, its like looking at mum again and remmembering stuff, my heads done in emotionally, i cant help her when she doesnt want to help herself, shes living for the drink and says it makes her feel better but how can it when its the 1st thing she thinks about she wont admit she has a problem which makes it hard for anyone to help her sometimes i feel no1 else cares about whats happening to her, i feel so alone and stressed by her and constantly worried about her future, why wont she help herself and stop this cycle.

Hi, I'm Elodie and my dad is a heroin addict. I'm finding it hard to cope with all the worry of it all. My parents are divorced and my mum is brilliant and supportive. I still see my dad with my mum supervising us. I really love him, but I don't trust him and sometimes really don't like because of the drugs; then I feel guilty for having these thoughts. I wondered how other kids cope with parents who have the same problems??? Does anyone feel the same? I just feel so sad and worried about it all. I just want him to stop. I can talk to my Mum, but I can't talk to him as he won't listen...

when i was about 4 i realised that there was something wrong that my dad went into a wheelchair after that my mum satrted to drink healvly at school i would come in to school upset then i started to notic about 7 that things became hard as my mum toke it into her hands to sleep with my classmates dads so they bullied me for what my mum had done also that i came home or to be picked up by this arroma of alcohol this was hard as due to that the school complanied on our health and care of fights would happen between her and a mum so social got involed that they realised she was not able to cope so they said if nothing happen we would go into care so we acted fast that year i was 10 when i became an auntie but to top that i was the only one trying to help my dad but also tidy the house in the same year they were told that my mum to move out or my and my twin sis would go in to care so my dad kicked her out but the thing is i wanted her to be part of my life but we know so little of hers it was hard. so she has been living homless everyday i look for her to know she is safe which is unsafe for me as i have been pyshicaly acted. there is still more

my mum drinks every single night, yeah it might not sound alot but she drinks and drinks and drinks till she passes out, she can have three bottles every single night..
i mean shes old enough to decide how it affects her but she never considers how it affects me. i have exams coming up and thats all she is focussing on, she wants me to be top A student even though ive failed all so far.. at night she gets violent not physically but verbally and she plays tricks with me, saying ill be going to boarding school and saying how shell cut off my phone contract and everything that helps me get through these days.. i dont know..
sometimes i think is she an alcoholic but i guess i need a second opinion.. help?

This is my 1st blog on this site, and I truely admire the person who came up with this idea!
But I know what people are going through I've been there, and I hated it, this is my story.
When I was about 10, I got told by my parents, they were going to seek a devioce, at first I was so upset about the idea, and kept asking why? couldn't it be sorted out? but no it couldn't, the reason being, my Dad drank to much and smoked quite abit, and being diabetic.
My parents used to argue alot so that's what made them go their seperate ways. But since we moved out of our old "family" home my dad lived on his own, and started drinking and smoking more than I had know him too.
I lived with my mum and my two half brothers and saw my father every week end and stayed at his house.
But he used to make me so upset, as he used to drink about [roughly] 21 bottles of wine in one week [monday to sunday] and a couple of cans of beers added on too all that.
When I used to go around every week end and he had been drinking heavily, and be wobble on his feet, and close to falling over, [he's a builder so tools around the floor too, as our house isn't that big] he could fall on one of the tools and could really hurt him self, I also worried when I wasn't there, different things would go through my head "Would he remember to take his insuline?" "Will he leave the cooker on, and burn the house down?" "Has he fallen over and really hurt him self?" I constantly worried bout him!
When I had been there a few week ends I would see him in such a state and yell at him making myself cry, telling him to "STOP!" I used to sit outside the door to the front room and cry as he was sat in the room watching TV, smoking and getting drunk.
One day he stopped. Smoking! The drinking was still as bad as it had been but he had said he had stopped smoking for me, which made me feel happy, and pleased that he would do that for me!
But I was still trying to get him to cut down the drink, while he wasn't smoking, but he just seemed to be drinking more! I was scared, that his insides were going to fail and he would be rushed to hospital, I kept thinking about all the bad things which could happen to him, being diabetic, drinking so much alcohol and smoking, which after a year, he started smoking again, I felt angry, and betrailed.
One weekend we went shopping before we went back home, and he didn't walk to the wine section of the supermarket, he didn't pick up any cans of beer and placed them in the basket, I didn't think much of it and just thought he had a a lot of wine and beer already at home.
But when we got home, I sat in the computer room on msn and sims for abit, thinking my dad would be drinking his 1st-3rd glass of wine. But when I sat down in the front room with him to watch TV and to eat our meal, there wasn't any wine, or beer? just juice, innocent grape juice! I looked at him and asked what was going on? wheres the wine? and he said he's stopped, I felt so happy, to hear him say that he had quite. and I asked him why? and he answered "for you. and something had to go, and it wasn't going to be my diabeties so it was the drink." I was so happy, and still am. Its been about three, four years now and he hasn't touched a drop, ok he's touched the non-alcohol beer which he has commented "tastes ok" but yeah he doesn't touch any alcohol.
He's brought a coffee machine, so the house smells of fresh coffee, and instead of drinking alcohol he drinks, coffee, tea, fizzy water, nice juice, nice juice and fizzy water. and in the summer alcohol FREE beer.
I don't think it will last for ever, but until that day, I am prode to call him my dad! :)
I just want to support all you young people out there, who are going through the same thing I went through, and would love to help and give as much advice as I can, thats why I joined this site, I watched "tevor mcdonald" today after corrie, and this site was mensioned on there so I went on ITV website to see if there was a link for this site and there was!

My dad is an alcoholic, i dont see much of him anymore cause he and my mum have split up! He doesnt get into contact with me only when he wants something!!
Im 18 and live in Newcastle.
x

Hi, I'm new to the website. My dad is a heroin addict and has been for years. My mum and dad are now divorced and I live with my mum. She really understands me and how I feel, but I would like to speak to other kids to see how they cope with their parents drug problems. I really love my dad, but I want him to stop taking drugs. I love him, but I don't trust him and sometimes I really hate him for what he has done to me and my mum and then I feel guilty about this. I'm finding it hard to cope sometimes with all the worry..... I just want him to stop eventually, but I honestly don't think he will...

im new to this site, im 19 years old and since i was about 9 or ten my dad has been drinking alot. he says he will stop drinking but he does not stop he says he will but can't and won't. sometimes when he is drunk he lashes out at me and has done in the past hit me or hurt me in some other way. the problem is i am seeing myself becoming my dad most weekends i am spending about £15 - £30 on booze and am just drinking it, simply to forget. everyone where i work says to me i wish i could be as care free as you are. i only pretend to be care free im not, im the complete opposite, at home i come home and just stay in my room, my dads drinking tonight he has shut himself away in the upstairs lounge and is sat there watching the tv and is drinking, sometimes i feel tempted to pour his drink away to stop him. but i never have, what can i do to stop him drinking ?? is there anything i can do to stop him from drinking ? i just want to get on with my dad im fed up of it its been this way for ten or 9 years now cant remember exactly when he started drinking heavily.

hi my names laura im 15 and i have joined this because id like to talk to sombody with a simular situation to me, my dad went into hospital 5 years ago and since he has come out he has been an alcoholic he has done many things since including crash cars, drink drive, go to prison. My mum and dad have split up because of my dad being an alcoholic because he knicked money and things from her,

my dad is in prison at the moment and id like to talk to anybody who has simular things going on at home